FRIENDSHIP IN HAWAII

     Every culture has its own ways to show friendship. On the islands of Hawaii, friendship is part of the "aloha spirit". In the language of the Hawaiians who first settled the islands long ago, aloha had a very special meaning. That is "to be with happiness".

     Hawaiians believe that once somebody loves the land, they are ready to love their people or community. This is the second most important sign of friendship. It is called lokahi in the Hawaiian language, which means "oneness with all people". To enjoy the land you should not be selfish. The land is for everyone who lives on it. Today many different peoples call Hawaii their home. Indeed, Hawaii is a place where people make one big community from many smaller communities. Each person gives kokua (help) to other people so that all feel stronger. It is believed that the islands can be a paradise when people live in peace. People are told that their actions should be as gentle as the wind that blows from the sea. When problems happen, people are asked to solve them with understanding. So when the people of Hawaii talk about ohana (family), they are really talking about all those who live on the islands.

     Living in peace, Hawaiians have developed a third sign of friendship. This personal friendship is shown by giving leis to one another. The lei, a string of flowers, is put over a friend's neck. Then the friend is given a kiss on the cheek. Visitors to the islands are also given leis. When they hear aloha, visitors begin to feel at home. Aloha also means "goodbye", so visitors will hear it again when they leave. It can also mean "our hearts singing together". Perhaps this is how most visitors will remember their new friendship.