In the sentences from Mr. Paul, the order of the words should be 搈y
assistant and me?and 搈y assistant and myself.?It抯 considered correct
to put reference oneself last, after the reference to others.
As for the pronouns me vs. myself:
strictly speaking, me, the object pronoun, is the one
to use. Myself is a reflexive pronoun, and is correctly
used in sentences such as 揑 saw myself in the mirror,?
and 揑 did it myself.?/p>
Descriptive grammar explanations, however, contain the following:
- Longman Grammar of Spoken and Written English (Biber,
Johansen, Leech, Conrad, Finnegan. Longman, 1999, p. 343) states: 揑n
examples of this type, reflexive pronouns are used as an alternative
to personal
pronouns. They occur particularly in contexts where there is case
variation in personal pronouns.?(Case variation can be defined
as less than perfect attention given to the case of pronouns.)
- Quirk et al., A Comprehensive Grammar of the English Language
(Longman, 1985) lists this use as one under 搒emi-reflexive?pronoun:
揥hen a reflexive pronoun (particularly a first person pronoun) is
coordinated with another phrase:
They have never invited Margaret and me/myself
to dinner.?/p>
- Celce-Muria and Larsen-Freeman, The Grammar Book (Heinle
and Heinle, 1999, p. 310) refers to remarks by Staczek: 搮such uses
of reflexives卹eflect the speaker抯 or the writer抯 insecurity
over whether to use the subject or object pronoun or a reflexive
pronoun??/li>
So, the use of myself instead of the object pronoun
me is borderline acceptable in the sentences that Mr.
Paul sent梑ut it might be frowned upon by prescriptive grammarians.