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Teenagers' friendships My friend, Robert, has a twin sister named Amanda. Though they get along well, there are some things about Amanda and her friends that puzzle Robert. He can't understand how girls can talk for so long. For example, sometimes when he leaves the apartment to play football, Amanda and her friend, Sharon, are sitting on the sofa, talking. When he comes back three and a half hours later, they're still sitting on the sofa, continuing the same conversation on the same topic. One day Robert was so curious that he asked Amanda what they talked about, but she replied, 'We're best friends. We talk about almost everything—film stars, pop songs, recipes, everything!" Boys and girls have different attitudes towards friendship. Friendships between girls are usually anchored in shared feelings and support, but friendships between boys are based on shared activities or interests. A boy is likely to be cautious about sharing his feelings with his close friends. A girl's closest friend, however, might be eager to tell her about something that has happened in her life. Many studies worldwide show that girls have more friendships than boys. In fact, many adolescent males cannot name a single best friend. When asked, they usually hesitate before responding, 'My best friend? I can't think about that. I am busy with my homework, and I have so many different friends that it is hard to choose just one best friend.' Females who have been asked can usually answer the question without pausing, 'A best friend? Of course. We have a lot to share with each other. We do a lot of things together such as talking and shopping.' We have to realize: boys share activities, while girls share feelings. The qualities that boys and girls consider important in a friend seem to be the same, regardless of the basis of these friendships. The important thing to remember is that both of them are friendships. We all need friends in our lives. 青少年的友谊 我的朋友罗伯特有个双生姐妹叫阿曼达。虽然他们相处得很好，但是阿曼达和她的朋友们让罗伯特感到很困惑。 他无法理解女孩们怎么能聊天聊那么久。 例如，有时候他出门去踢球，阿曼达和她的朋友雪伦坐在沙发上聊天。 3个半小时他回家后，她们还坐在沙发上不停地聊着同一个话题。 有一天，罗伯特非常好奇地问阿曼达，她们在谈论些什么，但是她回答说：我们是好朋友。 我们什么都谈从电影明星到流行歌曲，菜谱，任何事情都聊！” 对于友谊，男孩和女孩的态度截然不同。 女孩之间的友谊通常建立在共同情感和互相支持之上，而男孩之间的友谊则以共同的活动或兴趣为基础。 男孩通常都会很谨慎的与好朋友分享自己的感情。 而女孩的好朋友，可能就会迫不及待要告诉她生活中发生的一些事情。 许多世界研究均显示，女孩比男孩的友谊更多一些。 实际上，很多青少年男孩都说不出来一个最好的朋友。 在被问及这类问题是，他们在回答之前都会再三犹豫“我最好的朋友？我想不出来。 我忙着做家庭作业，我有很多朋友，但是选择一个最好的朋友好难。” 而女生被问到同样的问题时，她们会毫不犹豫的回答出来，“一个好朋友？当然。 我们会分享很多东西。我们可以一起做很多事情，比如聊天、购物。” 我们得了解：男孩们分享活动，而女孩们分享感觉。 无论男孩和女孩友谊的基础是什么，他们所看重的朋友身上的品质似乎是一样的。 最重要的就是要记住，两种都是友谊。我们在生活中都需要朋友。 |
